Oh, introverts, we’ve always had it rough.
People talk about being introverted like it’s a disease, or that the world simply has no room for people like us.
But, as someone probably has tried to tell you, “being introverted means you’re socially awkward, less successful, and super weird.”
First of all, who hurt these people? Second of all, being an introvert actually kicks ass.
Of course, media portrayal of introverts gives us the negative view people have of them. And introverted women are hardly portrayed in the media at all.
Blame this on group mentality favoritism. Advertisements aim to convince you that you’d be happier if you were part of their elusive group of people that use their products or services. Even something as intimate as tampons are advertised as something to get you back out into the world, instead of, you know, ensuring that your bed doesn’t look like a murder scene.
Introverts obviously know the positives of belonging to a group and socializing often. We just need a little bit of time to prepare.
Being an introvert simply means we gain energy from being alone
This doesn’t mean we only enjoy being alone.
After spending all day with people at work or at school, I need a break from others so that I can recharge. Coming home to an empty apartment or simply being able to close the door to our rooms can mean the world for an introvert. We can be ourselves, free to indulge in whatever solitary activity that we can imagine.
These don’t even need to be elusive “introvert only” activities either. They’re every day occurrences. Browsing the internet on your phone during your lunch break, being able to sit comfortably on a train with your headphones on, and curling up to your favorite movie when you’re home are all introverted activities.
It’s obvious why being alone can be energizing
When I go to sleep I am alone. It doesn’t matter if I’m next to my SO, at a sleepover, or in public. I am alone in my thoughts and dreams, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. In fact, it’s essential for humans to have this solitary break in order for our bodies to even function properly.
Many activities that people do everyday are often done alone. Eating, showering, and driving are other examples of something that you usually do by yourself.
Now, translate this into being curled up under a blanket and watching your favorite movie. Your body is obviously relaxing because it is at rest, but your mind is as well.
Notice how when you’re driving with friends or the music is too loud you stress out because you can’t focus?
When you’re by yourself, you’re directly worrying less about others and instead can focus on you and your needs. I can’t think of anything better than having the freedom to be yourself, and your mind obviously enjoys it as well.
When introverts have a full tank of energy, they can be unstoppable
With a full tank I am fully ready to be social and catch up with friends and family. Though going out for drinks, catching up, and going to work are all things that naturally drain that full tank.
Certain activities and the length of time involved, can feel like a draining nightmare, especially if you can’t escape it. Back in college I had one semester where I had all of my classes in one building from 7am-6pm straight every Tuesday. Basically I would enter and exit the building without seeing sun during the winter months, and it sucked.
Every Monday I would mentally prepare myself before I went in and it still wasn’t enough.
Though some people thrive being around people for that long.
But there’s nothing wrong with not wanting to be around people all day. It’s just not you and you shouldn’t force it.
What’s funny is that the idea of curling up under a million blankets in solitude is actually draining for extroverts. We get made fun because we get tired from being around people, but imagine getting tired from having the freedom to do exactly what you want to do without others’ judgment.
Introverts know when to turn “on” and “off”
One day I had an interesting conversation with some of my coworkers about our schedules. I would get into work at 6:30am and leave at 3:30pm. Why?
It definitely wasn’t because I was a morning person.
It was because there were exceptionally fewer people at work that I needed to interact with that early in the morning. Plus, I got to go home earlier and enjoy my time while the sun was still out. And after all of that, if I got invited to a happy hour event or needed to be in another social setting later, I could get a few hours of rest beforehand.
Some of my coworkers couldn’t comprehend why I wanted to leave work “early” or have opportunities to work from home.
Those same coworkers would put in 10-12 hour days at the office like it was nothing. Their reason? They don’t have anyone to come home to. This was usually because their spouse was just as much of a workaholic, or they lived alone. To them work was home.
Naturally of course, this type of behavior was encouraged by the company. The more people work, the more visible they are and the more they are perceived to be hard workers. This obviously leads to faster promotions and added responsibility. This was one of the reasons I eventually left the company, because I knew that I would never be able to live up to this expectation.
Introverts have a place in this world just as much as extroverts
One big reason you don’t hear much about successful introverts is because the ones that are showcased don’t appear to be introverts.
But rest assured, after the interviews, red carpets, performances, and shows, they simply switch “off” and are soon on their way to their happy place for much needed rest and relaxation.
There are successful introverts in every line of work and there are some jobs that introverts seriously excel in. Engineers, scientists, programmers, artists, writers, and more need to push out the world in order to create quality content. Because of this, being an introvert can lead to many lucrative jobs in a vast amount of industries.
Introverts aren’t always lazy (but it’s okay if they are)
Trust me, if you’re here, you already know that I take no issue with being considered lazy. In fact, I wrote about why lazy people tend to be happier people. You can read that here: 6 Reasons Why Lazy People Tend To Be More Successful.
As much as an introvert loves the opportunity to lounge around by themselves, not everything an introvert does has to be within the comfort of their own home. Biking, hiking, exercising, are all examples of activities that introverts love doing.
Introverts also tend to be more diligent at creating solutions to problems. Being introverted doesn’t mean that you hate working, it means that you enjoy doing it by yourself.
It’s much easier to create an environment of solitude for productivity. And if you’re a lazy introvert, like myself, you are probably the most productive working from your laptop in bed.
Additionally, if you happen to be a lazy introvert, you are part of a beautiful group of people that have made some pretty important inventions that we use today.
So, there you have it. There is no need to be ashamed to be an introvert. Check out these Myers-Briggs results and ask yourself if these results seem so bad.
People have made successful careers and lives out of being introverted, and they didn’t let incorrect media portrayal persuade them to be someone they’re not. There are a ton of advantages that comes out of being an introvert that allow us to know when to relax, when to be social, and manage our energy so that we’re able to live our best lives. Flip the script. Be yourself and embrace your introverted tendencies and let the world know that it needs us.